What did I do wrong? My Tinder match ghosted me after three messages.
Hey, I have a genuine question. I've been using Tinder for about a month with no matches, but I finally matched with someone! I’m 29, and she’s 20. We started talking, and here’s how it went:
Me: Hello, how are you?
Her: Hi, I’m fine, and you?
Me: I’m happy for you! I’m doing well, just a little cold, lol.
Me: What part of the city are you from?
Her: Really? I’m actually a little hot. I’m from [xxxx], and you?
Me: It’s been very cold here lately, but it warms up in the afternoon.
Me: I live in [xxxx].
Me: What do you like to do in your free time?
(And then... no more replies.)
I was trying to have a normal conversation with her to hopefully lead to a date, but she ghosted me. Did I scare her away?
Here’s what might have gone wrong:
Think about it—would you want to go on a date with someone whose first impression is generic small talk about the weather? It’s not that you did anything “wrong,” but your approach was boring and lacked any real spark.
Next time, ditch the “Hello, how are you?” and try something that stands out a bit more. Here are a few ideas: